I want to give a massive shout out to all the fathers out there. Early parenthood focuses so much on mums and babies that these guys are so often ignored. When they are spoken about, there’s often a moan about not feeding or changing baby at the exact time according to the routine. Or not knowing baby prefers mango to bananas. Its so negative.
Generally speaking, as mothers we generally spend so much more time with babies during the first few months. It makes sense for us to know their little habits and preferences inside and out. Everything we’ve learned is a result of countless hours of trial and let’s face it, error. Yet for some reason we expect our other halves to have picked up that knowledge in half the time. Very few new dads do things wrong, they just do them differently.
So dads, I want to thank you:
- For trying to get up at night when baby wakes, even if he’s been fed and changed by the time you get up (at least you made an effort)
- For doing a full day’s work after a broken night’s sleep. Whilst we can drown our sorrows in Starbucks’s finest with other mums, you have to keep your shit together because a meltdown by the coffee machine just wouldn’t go down well
- For the cups of tea
- For giving older siblings a TV/gaming marathon to keep them entertained whilst we rest
- For getting baby dressed every now and then. The outfit might not be an exact copy of what I saw in the Gap advert, but he’s washed and dressed. I’ll just have to take the photo next time
- For trying to put a smile on our faces after a rubbish day
- For playing silly games with baby, even when we think it’s nap time. Sometimes it’s ok to just have fun and ignore the routine
- For not judging us when we crack open a bottle of red the moment you walk through the door on a Friday (well maybe Thursday) evening
- For the subtle and not so subtle reminders that a diet of coffee, cake and wine isn’t going to get the post-baby body we dream of
- For loving that post-baby body, for all its stretched wobbliness
- For putting up with our irrational reactions and emotions, even when you have no idea what we are going on about
Thank you for just trying. This roller coaster called parenting is pretty scary stuff, but you holding our hands (sometimes reluctantly) makes it that little bit easier.
(All experiences based on my own!)